This week was full to the brim with every emotion under the sun. Happiness, confusion, sadness, anxiety, joy, gratitude you name it I felt it. Not in a negative way at all, more of in a completely present way.
Yesterday morning while at breakfast with all of the managers from our area was an ever so minor low for me. I looked around the table at these 9 stunning, fit, passionate, ladies that radiate sparkle and realized that all 9 were in relationships. Needless to say, I began to feel incredibly inferior. In that instance I think the term comparison kills would have been an ever so suiting slap in the face for me. But instead I flat lined for the remainder of the day and felt next to nothing.
Until the truth bomb hit that I was letting my perception of all of these phenomenal woman outshine my own brightness. We never know the full story of what other people are up to or dealing with, the only thing we do know is the work we are doing on ourselves. So how dare I make assumptions on the perfection of someone else when all I need to do is be aware of who I am and what I have done. There is no finite dosage of joy. Happiness is not a first come first serve basis. In fact life is like a buffet table- you could gorge, make a plate similar to everyone else in line, or you could just pick what served your needs. So why the need to look up in awe, we are all on our own journey, all on our own all you can eat buffet where the only thought should be to be fueled with healthy yumminess. The tank should always be full and it is only negative thought processes, the comparison kills and our own assumption of the outside world that burn one down to empty.
What do I mean be this?
You shine, I shine.
Your success does not take aways from my opportunities.
Your relationship does not narrow the probability of me getting in one, in fact it may likely increase it- assuming your man has friends 
It means that desperately or devastatingly single is no longer an acceptable answer to anything.
That, most importantly, I don’t pale in comparison but that I am a brilliantly bright compliment.
